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How do I pray for my wife?

One of the books I picked up a few weeks ago is titled, “Water of the Word” by Andrew Case.

Mr. Case wrote this book to provide husbands a foundation to start praying for their wife.  In many cases he has taken phrases straight from the Bible and arranged them into beautiful prayers.  He considers these a good starting point for praying for your wife, from which you can move into more intimate, personal prayer.  Here’s what he has to say in the introduction:

“These prayers are also not intended to be read alone.  The the married man I commend frequent use of these prayers with his wife, praying them over her from his heart, using her name.  The should be the rule and not the exception, so that she is regularly reminded that Christ intercedes for her in like manner, that he husband loves her, and that the Word of God abounds with sanctifying power…I solemnly charge you before the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ to never neglect the joy and privilege of interceding for your wife…God has shown marvelous favor to you, therefore pray for her with all your might while you live.  Show Christ to her and to the fallen world in this way.  Whatever you do for her, do not fail or forget to do the best thing.  She is a gift too wonderful for you to care for alone; Sovereign Grace must guard, guide, and govern her heart and life.”

 The image he portrays here of a man cherishing and caring for his wife in this way is not the image of a “normal” husband that is portrayed in our culture.  By that, I don’t mean that there aren’t men modeling this behavior out there, I mean that it isn’t modeled in our tv shows and movies.  We typically don’t see men caring for their wives this way and treating her like she is a “marvelous favor” from God and a “wonderful gift.”  This is just not “normal” today to think that way.  Typically “the wife” is our old ball and chain, or our “social coordinator,” or other things, but most men don’t refer to their wives this way at all.  I’ve been exposed to a couple of teachings in the last few days that have left me wondering, “Is it really possible to live that way today in America?”  This one doesn’t seem all that impossible, but it will prove a challenge, because I honestly need to retrain my heart with some of these attitudes. 

 He also speaks at length about pride and humbleness:

“Be ever conscious of your broken condition – that you are a sinful man who is in need of continued renewal by which you are being conformed to the image of Christ.  Therefore pray strongly , as one who knows he is weak.  Pray boldly, as one who knows he has no ability or confidence of himself.  Pray sweetly, as one well aware of the heart within him still tinged with the bitter fruit of wickedness.  And pray mindful of the truth that you are in need of just as much intercession as she.”

Here is one of the prayers in the book:

Incomparable God,

I praise you that while my wife was still weak and ungodly, Christ died for her.  For one will scarcely die for a righteous person, but You have shown Your love to her in that while she was still a sinner, Christ died for her. 

O beloved, since therefore you have been justified by His blood, much more shall you be saved by Him from the wrath of God.  Rejoice!  Rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom you have now received reconciliation.

Father, let her not continue in sin so that grace may abound.  May it never be!  Do not allow her to live in sin once she has died to it.  Cause her to consider herself dead to sin and alive to You in Christ Jesus.  Let not sin reign in her mortal body, to make her obey its passions.  Keep her from presenting her members to sin as instruments for unrighteousness.  For sin will have no dominion over her, since she is not under law but under grace. 

Just as she once presented her members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness leading to more lawlessness, so now may she present her members as slaves to righteousness leading to sanctification.  Instill this truth every deeply within her: the wages of sin is death, but Your free gift is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.  Restrain her from earning deadly wages.  And come quickly, Lord Jesus.  We long for You.  Amen


Legacy Adventures

For my first post, I’m going to go back to an email I wrote some friends last year in explanation of what Legacy Adventures is and what my first experience with them was.  I’ve edited it a little for adult content (just kidding), I just took a few things out that don’t pertain here…enjoy and check out Legacy Adventures here.

“I felt compelled to share with you guys about something I’ve attended a couple times now that has had a profound effect on my relationship with my kids, as well as my relationship with God.  About a year ago a friend began telling me about this thing called “Legacy Adventures” he had attended, and how awesome it was.  As he told it, it was a father/son camping trip where you go out to the woods and shoot BB guns, bows and arrows, go fishing, build stuff, etc.  Guy stuff.  He said that it was an amazing trip with just he and his son, and that he got to have some time with other dads that were struggling through life the same way he was: how to be a good dad, how to be the spiritual leader in their house, you get the idea.  He couldn’t wait to go on another trip, and as time went on he felt called to join the ministry and is now on the leadership team.

Well, I put it off and put it off, but finally in April decided to sign up for the May Father/Daughter trip.  The only person I knew going in was that my friend was the co-leader of that particular trip, so I actually wouldn’t be spending much time with him or anything because he would be fairly busy while we were there.  This is not a situation I am normally comfortable in.  As I told him later, we were up on the rim and I felt like I left my comfort zone at home.  Anyway, not knowing what to expect I was fairly apprehensive about the whole thing.  Jasmine however, was very excited about the opportunity to have me all to herself.  We drove up there on Saturday morning and got to the campsite around 10.  Set up the tent, had lunch and split into different groups for the afternoon activities.  For this particular trip there were three different activities:  shooting gallery (BB Guns, Bows, hatchet throwing) –- the girls really seemed to dig this by the way, probably because it’s not stuff they usually do — , then a craft (we made a pot and planted seeds), then blindfolded painting where your partner tells you what to paint and you try to do it blindfolded.  Every activity was a lot of fun, and it provided some insight into Jasmine’s personality for me.  The other thing that was awesome about the activities was just how purposeful they all were.  At the outset of each activity our leader explained the purpose behind that particular activity, and what it symbolized.  Fantastic stuff.

That night, after the girls were in their beds, the men talked around the campfire with the leader doing some teaching from the Bible as well as sharing personal things from his walk.  Outside of the fact that I was spending a day and a half straight with just Jasmine, this time was the highlight of my trip.  I never would have thought I would say that, but it was.  Trust me on that.

Next day was some “daughter directed” free time and pretty much a camp wrap up.  So all in all, it requires a commitment of Saturday 7 am to around 2 or 3 Sunday afternoon.  Some of the trips are actually to places that have cabins to stay in.  On those trips, you drive up Friday night since there’s not tents to set up.  Two nights instead of one.

As for the “camping” part.  I am honestly not a camper, I know some of you are so this is no big deal.  For the rest of us let me say this.  EASY CAMPING.  Basically you bring clothes, a tent, and sleeping bags and you’re good.  They take care of all the food and the cooking.  They even set up some port a potty type toilets that are really good.  The tough stuff is taken care of!

…I really just wanted to reiterate that I think this is something that almost all dads could use.  How many of us really get one on one time with our kids in an environment where we can do fun stuff, and pay attention to them (with no distractions), and also get some encouragement in our relationship with God?  I would say, not too many opportunities like that.

Some of you I have already spoken with about this and some of you I haven’t for whatever reason.  One last thing – this is for kids age 5 and up (otherwise too young to do most of the stuff), and I would suggest that even if you have more than one kid of a gender, you only take one with you per trip.  Obviously, it’s no big deal if you do take more than one, however I think it takes quite a bit away from giving each child that special alone time with Dad.  I hope you will all pray about whether this is something you may be able to attend in the future.”

I will be attending 3 trips this year: April 10th-11th, June 12th-13th, and October 9th-10th.  See their entire calendar for 2010 here.

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